Halacha Category: Family Purity

Restrictions While Eating

One Table When a couple eats together, they need to have a reminder that they are in a state of niddah, and that the meal should not become overly romantic. It is forbidden for the couple to eat together at one table without a heker.[1] A heker is anything with a little bit of height […]

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Touching and Passing

Affectionate touch is forbidden by the Torah.[1] Chazal added on to this and prohibited all forms of touch.[2] To prevent a couple from touching even by mistake, there is an additional prohibition: a husband and wife may not pass objects directly from one to the other. Ashkenazim, and some Sephardim also prohibit throwing an object […]

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Sensitivities While Niddah

A couple must avoid putting themselves in a situation where there is excessive lightheadedness or giddiness which may easily lead to intimate situations. The couple must avoid frivolous interactions, and flirting with one another, as this can lead to a desire for intimate relations. This does not mean that a couple cannot make jokes, or […]

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Harchakot – Overview

The Torah prohibits sexual relations between a husband and wife during niddah, as well as other forms of intimate physical expression, such as hugging and kissing. Intimate touch is forbidden from the Torah. Chazal added a series of restrictions, called harchakot, on the conduct of a couple during the time of niddah. These restrictions are […]

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Tevila – Immersion in a Mikvah

After completing the chafifa, a woman must immerse herself in the mikvah. To properly immerse in the mikvah, a woman must be completely under the water, in a way that the water touches all her skin and hair at once. To best achieve this, a woman should stand with her legs spread slightly, arms extended, […]

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Bedikot

A bedikah is performed with a soft, white cotton cloth. The cloth must be completely clean, and should be soft enough to easily maneuver into the various folds of the vagina. Cloths are available at most Jewish supermarkets. They can also be purchased online from https://bedikahcloths.com/ (UK and most of Europe), and from https://www.mikvah.org (USA). […]

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Shivah Neki’im – Seven Clean Days

After a clean hefsek tahara and moch dachuk are completed, one must count seven clean days in preparation for mikvah. Seven days are counted according to the Jewish calendar day. This means that night precedes the day. The shivah neki’im start on the night immediately after the hefsek tahara is performed, and end at nightfall […]

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Hefsek Tahara – Confirming that the Period has Ended

On the fifth day, before sunset, the woman performs a hefsek tahara. A hefsek tahara is a regular bedikah which shows that the period has stopped completely. Thus, a woman who got her period any time between sunset of Shabbat and sunset of Sunday, would do a hefsek tahara on Thursday afternoon, prior to sunset. […]

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Waiting Five Days

A woman must wait a minimum of five days after her period began before confirming that it ended. Included in these five days is the day that her period started. Some Sephardic communities wait only four days. In common practice, most women do not get a clean hefsek tahara before the fifth day. A woman […]

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Bedikah

A woman examines herself on the day or night of her vest to verify that the period has not yet started. A woman can do the bedikah at any point during the vest, however, it is better to do the bedikah as early as possible so that it is not forgotten. If one forgot to […]

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